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Oh, and hey, as for what Jules said...Cole is a pr...

2007-10-24T22:23:00.000-04:00

Oh, and hey, as for what Jules said...Cole is a product of "pulling out". He came WAYYYYYYY sooner than I had hoped (not that I regret his arrival at all, b/c I LOVE, LOVE, LOVE him!). Jules is lucky, not everyone is.

Unlike Julia, I don't feel "Done" yet. I am done ...

2007-10-24T22:14:00.000-04:00

Unlike Julia, I don't feel "Done" yet. I am done for now, that's for sure, b/c I don't think I could mentally or physically handle another little person around here yet. Unfortunately, I might be "Done" in real life, b/c Trey has no interest in any more kids, and my mom has literally threatened to disown me if I have any more kids.

So, a month or so ago, when I was feeling sick to my stomach for days on end, and the fear of pregnancy arose, I won't deny I was a little excited. Once I found out it was just from drinking too many soft drinks, I was relieved. However, at the same time, I really was upset just a tad. I mean, come on Karla, we make beautiful babies. If anything, having children for us is like helping save the world. There need to be more beautiful and smart people in the world, and we're here to help the cause!

I understand that feeling. We are done having chi...

2007-10-24T00:13:00.000-04:00

I understand that feeling. We are done having children. Richard is in the process of getting his stuff together for a vasectomy. A few months ago I felt sick and my period was late. I had convinced myself I was pregnant. In my mind I had come to accept that and when the test was negative I was let down even though we are Done. Yes, that's Done with a capital D.

I know what you mean about being disapointed. Eve...

2007-10-23T22:09:00.000-04:00

I know what you mean about being disapointed. Even though Jeff and I are preventing right now I still think "this sucks" when my period comes every month. I can't wait to have another baby... I think it's just that maternal instinct.

I also hate BC pills. I tossed mine a few months ago. I'll never take them again. What really boggles my mind is that since I've gone off of them my cycles are perfect to the HOUR of every month - they were never before. The first time I got pregnant I was taking them (obviously not the way you are supost to haha) never again!

I know how you feel. I thought for sure I was pre...

2007-10-23T10:55:00.000-04:00

I know how you feel. I thought for sure I was pregnant for a while, and even though I didn't think I was ready for another one, even though we had been trying for another one, I was relieved and disappointed at the same time.

That is such an odd and hard to describe feeling b...

2007-10-23T10:41:00.000-04:00

That is such an odd and hard to describe feeling but I do understand. I have never been through anything as devastating as your losing Ava but I did miscarry before conceiving Aiden and that was very difficult. We were TTC for 2.5 years before we conceived him. I'm breastfeeding and I'm one of those lucky women that has a regular period during breastfeeding. Any time it's even a day late my mind starts to freak out a little, even though Aiden is just now only 7 months old. And of course when I start spotting a day later I feel a tug at my heart and that familiar disappointment from TTC. Even though I know it would be SO difficult if I got pregnant right now I can't stop that disappointed feeling.

Oh and I didn't even try the pill. I'd read so many women that had the same experience, I just decided it wasn't worth it to possibly mess up my milk supply. It sucks that it's not really an option though.

We got pregnant so quickly after having Nikki that...

2007-10-23T09:15:00.000-04:00

We got pregnant so quickly after having Nikki that I barely had time to process it. Nikki was only 16 months old when Julie came along. I went through a wide range of emotions when I found out I was pregnant with Julie, so I know how you feel.

I know this may be TMI, but I'm personally against...

2007-10-23T08:56:00.000-04:00

I know this may be TMI, but I'm personally against birth control. The way I keep from getting pregnant is just to have my guy pull out pre-ejaculation. I know, I know. You didn't need to know that about me, but it works for me. I have two daughters, one 9 and one 6 and I am 28. I haven't taken birth control with any regularity since I was 16 and both my pregnancies were planned. I've never had any "false alarms" or anything. That might not work for some people, but for me, it's perfect.

I went on the pill after a few months and my suppl...

2007-10-23T06:52:00.000-04:00

I went on the pill after a few months and my supply was never the same. I got off the pill immediately, but my supply just never bounced back, despite pumping and fenugreek.

I'm with you about being both relieved and disappointed with each new negative pregnancy test.

I think lots of women feel this way. We know that...

2007-10-22T22:06:00.000-04:00

I think lots of women feel this way. We know that babies are great, but we also know that babies change everything.

i've been reading you for awhile, but have never c...

2007-10-22T21:15:00.000-04:00

i've been reading you for awhile, but have never commented. This post compelled me to comment. I never did well with the hormones in birth control. I now have an iud which I love. Ask your doctor about it. They have changed drastically since they first came out.

Ya know, they say the "mini-pill" does not mess wi...

2007-10-22T18:41:00.000-04:00

Ya know, they say the "mini-pill" does not mess with your milk supply, but it did mine too!!

And I also know how you feel about the ups and downs of wanting to preggo/not wanting to be preggo again, and I'm only 4 1/2 post partum. I know, we're nuts, aren't we? ;o)

Oh my, do I know how you feel. I have PCOS so I ba...

2007-10-22T17:28:00.000-04:00

Oh my, do I know how you feel. I have PCOS so I basically do NOT get periods unless I'm on the pill. I stopped taking it in march to see if my body would naturally have one and I just finally got a period a few days ago. That means SEVEN months with nothing, and I'm not breastfeeding! Lots and lots of pregnancy tests and each time I feel relieved and sad. Not just sad about no baby, because I do want one, but sad because my body doesn't isn't "normal" and I know when we do go full-on with trying to concieve it's going to be a struggle. But, I'm keeping faith that it will happen when it needs to..same with you. *hugs*

Was that TMI? I really have no sense of those kind of boundaries, heh.

You know what's funny is that before I got pregnan...

2007-10-22T15:46:00.000-04:00

You know what's funny is that before I got pregnant my husband and I were NOT trying to conceive, but we weren't being very careful either. The not-being-careful resulted in several "suspected" but not "actual" pregnancies. Every time a pregnancy test came back negative I was both relieved because "OMG WE WEREN'T READY!" But also, disappointed and sad because "OMG I WANT A BABY!" The wanting of the baby may or may not be subconcious, but I think we feel that way because it shows us how we REALLY feel about it. When I finally had a pregnancy test come back positive I was all at once totally freaked out and also completely thrilled.

For example: What if your pregnancy test comes back positive? You would not be sad about this new baby. The baby would never feel as if it was a mistake!! It's TRUE!! : )

I'm sure it's the battle that rages between the he...

2007-10-22T13:57:00.000-04:00

I'm sure it's the battle that rages between the heart and the mind. One can not really trump the other. We just have to try to find a balance, and live through the soul, which connects the two. That's the beauty of being a woman. We are deliciously complicated and intricate.

Don't worry. In the right timing, flowers will bloom from a well-tilled soil.

xoxo

It's something about being a woman and mommy and k...

2007-10-22T13:46:00.000-04:00

It's something about being a woman and mommy and knowing the feeling of having a baby and being a woman who was made to have babies.

No matter how much I say I don't want another, every time I feel "weird" I get this little excitement. Last month I though for sure I was pregnant, being disappointed because I didn't want to do the pregnancy thing all over again, I was, as you put it crushed that the pregnancy test (after being 5 days late) was negative.

I told my husband that I was sorry for always being indecisive about having another, I go back and forth weekly...and he assures me it was because I am a women and that was what I was made for (not is a bad way) just like he will always want sex, I will always long for that little baby to nurture.

Healing is a good thing, you have so much in store with a little guy Nates age, they are so much fun!!

Karla- you are so strong and so full of love. As m...

2007-10-22T13:31:00.000-04:00

Karla- you are so strong and so full of love. As much as you have gone through, I think that you would love any babies you had at any time.

But I agree that you deserve some time to heal. There is so much ahead of you. Just look back at some of your posts during your miscarriage. You had no idea that Nate was in your future. But your future is bright. You are an amazing mother and I am so proud of you.

Kari