tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12843084.post1936098547534641746..comments2007-03-14T22:16:05.269-04:00karlahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05483505184799130550noreply@blogger.comBlogger29125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12843084.post-71705116112044890202007-03-14T22:16:00.000-04:002007-03-14T22:16:00.000-04:002007-03-14T22:16:00.000-04:00

I promise, it's totally normal to compare. I do it everyday w/all the kids I know. I even compare my own three. TJ came out holding his head up, which amazed the midwife, so I expected nothing less w/Taryn and Cole. Not so, yet they're fine now. Something to think about is his size, too. My kids were all pretty big at birth, and thus they did the more physical developing like that (head up,

Christihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05369978641581682398noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12843084.post-39978937005001470812007-03-14T18:24:00.000-04:002007-03-14T18:24:00.000-04:002007-03-14T18:24:00.000-04:00

babies develop at their own pace. it doesnt mean your a bad mom at all. maybe he'll learn to talk before the other kid will. or maybe he'll end up with an iq of 160. dont stress it karla. hes still an amazing baby.

Tachaehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15497217654927372550noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12843084.post-24510128318239704402007-03-14T14:50:00.000-04:002007-03-14T14:50:00.000-04:002007-03-14T14:50:00.000-04:00

I read an entry of yours the other day that hinted at wanting more kids. It's after you get through the first year with a baby that you stop worrying about sucking. Until then it's impossible not to be succeptible to the relentless input from others, whether it's a relative or a headline at a checkstand.My second daughter has insisted on sleeping on her belly since we brought her home. I'm sorry,

Amandahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05864631532886681402noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12843084.post-8707765338332552322007-03-14T08:04:00.000-04:002007-03-14T08:04:00.000-04:002007-03-14T08:04:00.000-04:00

i work with abused,neglected unwanted children. Nate did not have prenatal drug exposure and I don't think either of you smoke so ya know what? Relax. he looks happy and well fed. Make sure he has tummy time and love him. Just my two cents.Love the blogDee

Duchesshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01784960026379088535noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12843084.post-55474229292340992602007-03-14T04:31:00.000-04:002007-03-14T04:31:00.000-04:002007-03-14T04:31:00.000-04:00

The best piece of advice I ever got was this - "Don't listen to the perfect people. They're stinking liars."(It's not mine, it's from damomma's book. Her blog: www.damomma.com)Incidentally, could Nate be any cuter?!

Darenwww.rhoadestrip.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12843084.post-14398370146557446512007-03-13T23:49:00.000-04:002007-03-13T23:49:00.000-04:002007-03-13T23:49:00.000-04:00

Hiya.. I've been a lurker here for a bit ;) I just wanted to share a cool idea I heard from a co-worker about the whole cat and sleeping baby thing. They actually took a wooden screen door and replaced the one on the bedroom. So they could still see in and hear and all of that good stuff while keeping curious cats out. Just an idea!

starlitehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11340729417813749443noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12843084.post-79892873253645220882007-03-13T23:23:00.000-04:002007-03-13T23:23:00.000-04:002007-03-13T23:23:00.000-04:00

How to let go and stop worrying? Have another kid or two. You won't have time to worry!Sleeping? Whatever it takes so you get some sleep. For us, it meant keeping baby in the bed with us. I slept perfectly without worrying about the baby in another room. For you and most other people from what I hear, it means keeping the baby separate. As long as you're sleeping, don't worry about the

Juliahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08497493113926488342noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12843084.post-27246461527425066922007-03-13T22:53:00.000-04:002007-03-13T22:53:00.000-04:002007-03-13T22:53:00.000-04:00

Finally my home computer lets me leave comments. Look. This will never stop EVER. Even if it isn't baby envy it is stroller envy (serious every stroller is better then mine) or it is clothing envy or your kid is potty trained and mine isn't. With me it is more, hey look their child is well behaved and mine is climbing out of the grocery cart pulling chips of the shelf throwing at that lady

Misguided Mommyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10512111894191254653noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12843084.post-44321928041116218352007-03-13T22:13:00.000-04:002007-03-13T22:13:00.000-04:002007-03-13T22:13:00.000-04:00

The best advice I ever got after having my daughter was, "Shut the books, don't google, and take everyone's advice with a grain of salt". I did that and me and Kirsten are doing well. You and Nate are doing really well. Keep it up, and try not to compare. Every person is different. Nate's eyes are gorgeous btw.

Heatherhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09470294035411779411noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12843084.post-79607085540541501512007-03-13T20:54:00.000-04:002007-03-13T20:54:00.000-04:002007-03-13T20:54:00.000-04:00

I agree with the previous posters. All kids learn to hold their head up, crawl, walk, talk, etc. It's not as though the kids who walked at 9 months are better walkers then those who walked at 18 months. It all evens out in the end.As for my son, I am hoping that he does NOT walk until 12 months, because he will be able to understand 'no' and directions better than if he was, say, 10 months. Plus,

Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12843084.post-17703812005590221452007-03-13T20:46:00.000-04:002007-03-13T20:46:00.000-04:002007-03-13T20:46:00.000-04:00

We mothers would go NUTS if we were to follow everything to a "T".You do the best you can and with what you know.You are doing a great job and let me tell you that my kids never slept in my room for very long and they are just fine. Nate looks like he is doing great and don't worry if he is not doing the samething other kids are doing. He will get there and will probably walk before they do.

Tammyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09577377560819946927noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12843084.post-84883865338878925272007-03-13T20:10:00.000-04:002007-03-13T20:10:00.000-04:002007-03-13T20:10:00.000-04:00

"....Canadian Pediatric Society’s advice about keeping their baby’s crib in their bedroom for the first six months of life. Apparently, there is some sort of feng shui-ish belief that your baby tunes into his parents breathing which in turn, reminds him to keep doing it too."That's bullshit. WE were actually the parents IN CLASS TO BE GIVEN KUDOS by our NURSE instructor for saying our newborn

aka_Meritthttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10711662607879816395noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12843084.post-78322287296172978232007-03-13T17:51:00.000-04:002007-03-13T17:51:00.000-04:002007-03-13T17:51:00.000-04:00

Truth be told, my son came out holding his head up... no joke. So, they all do it at their own pace and not a minute before. He didn't crawl until 10 months, a full 2 months after he began cruising, and walked shortly after crawling. Now, at almost 20 months, he doesn't say a single word, and we're working on that. Do not be concerned. You will kill yourself comparing him to other babies.

Jillianhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05863914033819361095noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12843084.post-39702212726634154492007-03-13T17:21:00.000-04:002007-03-13T17:21:00.000-04:002007-03-13T17:21:00.000-04:00

One of the most important new mom lessons I learned was to say, "oh really? that's wonderful for (babynamehere)!" and to smile big. I don't add my own baby's accomplishments to it, and if asked I keep it short and sweet. This diffuses the competition thing. I have a family member w/a baby close in age to my son who does this competition stuff w/sleeping and eating. I HATE it. I know it's

JenniferWhttp://beautifulbaby.journalspace.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12843084.post-83574274098025963892007-03-13T16:46:00.000-04:002007-03-13T16:46:00.000-04:002007-03-13T16:46:00.000-04:00

I am going to tell you the same thing I tell all of my friends who are mothers and ask this type of question.You are his mother and whatever you do is right. However, the guilt, it never goes away. Sorry.

Heddahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10092579992277542694noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12843084.post-67929693534686505912007-03-13T16:38:00.000-04:002007-03-13T16:38:00.000-04:002007-03-13T16:38:00.000-04:00

All you can do is make informed decisions based on the current information. We were all put to sleep on our tummies as babies...that's what our moms were told to do. The advice is ever-changing. All you can do is what you think to be best. You are an AWESOME mom; please don't even doubt that!

Amandawww.kickyboots.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12843084.post-74907129707594384752007-03-13T16:08:00.000-04:002007-03-13T16:08:00.000-04:002007-03-13T16:08:00.000-04:00

Relax. Be glad that Nate sleeps in his own room. GO back to the mom's group in a few months andI guarantee all the other moms will be stressed out trying to get their babies into their own cribs and out of the parent's room. You are doing a good thing. It is perfectly ok to have your baby sleep in his own crib in his own room!

Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12843084.post-59994015855427342642007-03-13T15:42:00.000-04:002007-03-13T15:42:00.000-04:002007-03-13T15:42:00.000-04:00

You know, my first baby held her head up on day two, walked by nine months, was talking clearly before her peers, yada, yada, yada. Then, along came baby number two. She did NOTHING on time. I was really worried about her. But, guess what? She's six now, and you'd never know the difference. You are doing just fine. The only way you will really feel that way is if you make yourself believe

Juleshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10948932943290994719noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12843084.post-60883318128406018912007-03-13T15:25:00.000-04:002007-03-13T15:25:00.000-04:002007-03-13T15:25:00.000-04:00

Karla, for the first several weeks of Al's life, I drove myself (and the Mr.) insane over all of the articles and books and blogs that I read about the "right way" to do things. Finally, I quit. Because the Mr. told me that if I didn't quit obsessing he was going to call my doctor and then my mother and see about Getting Me Help.Only then did I start to listen to my gut. And my gut has never

Jezerhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07342441899854569351noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12843084.post-36462224089406842222007-03-13T14:31:00.000-04:002007-03-13T14:31:00.000-04:002007-03-13T14:31:00.000-04:00

My SIL is the epitomy of comparison mommy-ing. It bugged the hell out of me after we both had our first babies.Now truthfully I tell her "I don't care". She thinks her daughter is superior mentally to my son...I say "Look I don't care what she is doing that he isn't, they aren't the same person." What she doesn't know is that I KNOW that my son IS mentally superior hehe, I would never say it

Krishttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06372904383979683415noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12843084.post-82995866515956905482007-03-13T13:13:00.000-04:002007-03-13T13:13:00.000-04:002007-03-13T13:13:00.000-04:00

Oh Karla - trust me, NOTHING made me feel as incompetent as becoming a mother. I was fully capable of all kinds of things in my professional life, but then suddenly I didn't even know the right way to burp a baby. Oh the pressure!It's hard to let it go, but somehow you have to. The beauty of hindsight (and having three kids) is that I can now see that each one of them develops differently and

Heatherhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01975795000759157299noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12843084.post-54503364884941966762007-03-13T12:18:00.000-04:002007-03-13T12:18:00.000-04:002007-03-13T12:18:00.000-04:00

they are all right, you know, that you are doing a great job and that it is inately human to compare and also, to want to win in the baby contests. To be the mum thinking (hopefully not saying out loud!) "My child is brighter than yours, my child can sit up unassisted, my child ate an entire banana this morning (and won't poo now for 4 days), etc." It doesn't make you a bad mother or a bad

Mama Thttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06990358486104157847noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12843084.post-15648525652484002082007-03-13T12:02:00.000-04:002007-03-13T12:02:00.000-04:002007-03-13T12:02:00.000-04:00

We put our little guy in his own room at 8 weeks-mostly because we ALL slept better that way. Don't let anyone make you feel bad-you're his mom and you're doing great.

Shalinihttp://www.runlucyrun.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12843084.post-80968468654651971672007-03-13T11:43:00.000-04:002007-03-13T11:43:00.000-04:002007-03-13T11:43:00.000-04:00

First go read "Sippy Cups are not for Chardonnay." Funny stuff.Second, I hate talking about sleep w/ other moms because NO ONE DOES IT THE SAME WAY. You are an awesome mom. My girl if almost 15 months and will only walk holding on to my hand. I know it is so hard to not compare. I love my moms group, but it is naturally human to compare.

Dayhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06649304958420208538noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12843084.post-89769889291429877622007-03-13T11:31:00.000-04:002007-03-13T11:31:00.000-04:002007-03-13T11:31:00.000-04:00

Back when we were growing up, our parents did the exact opposite with us that we are supposed to do these days, and we're miraculously still alive.There is so much information out there, so many rules, so much to take in, we are gonna do things differently. We may make some mistakes along the way, but I truly believe there is plenty of gray out there when raising kids. Things aren't always black

Deborahhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17611009058890162238noreply@blogger.com