tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12843084.post115037478290506543..comments2007-09-21T15:43:21.823-04:00karlahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05483505184799130550noreply@blogger.comBlogger18125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12843084.post-37075397461279065852007-09-21T15:43:00.000-04:002007-09-21T15:43:00.000-04:002007-09-21T15:43:00.000-04:00

Just adding my 2 cents way after the fact, but my heart skipped a lot with Max. I can't imagine my water breaking early and his prematurity being linked.

Nicki from North Carolinahttp://www.myspace.com/_nickiblack_noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12843084.post-1150759592034815582006-06-19T19:26:00.000-04:002006-06-19T19:26:00.000-04:002006-06-19T19:26:00.000-04:00

There is absolutely nothing wrong with not being able to attend your family member's shower because of the memories it brings back. I felt very weird even inviting my aunt to my baby shower, knowing that she was never able to conceive, and had a tough time with that for a long time. She loved being there, and I'm glad I invited her, but if she hadn't come, I wouldn't have been offended. I can

Tiffany Jordanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06773178454157336375noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12843084.post-1150529141251127352006-06-17T03:25:00.000-04:002006-06-17T03:25:00.000-04:002006-06-17T03:25:00.000-04:00

I will leave all words for these wise women that share your experience more than I...However, I've got all the mojo I can muster coming your way. Internet hugs may seem cheesy, but cheesy I am not afraid to be...Take care!

Carrienoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12843084.post-1150476172385241802006-06-16T12:42:00.000-04:002006-06-16T12:42:00.000-04:002006-06-16T12:42:00.000-04:00

you can vent to us anytime u feel u need to just send an email or post

rachaelhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13085050615125716444noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12843084.post-1150466930707629572006-06-16T10:08:00.000-04:002006-06-16T10:08:00.000-04:002006-06-16T10:08:00.000-04:00

I really hope that you dont believe you are being selfish by not going to a baby shower for your bil! you have the right to worry and be sad from what you have gone through. No one can judge you for the choices you make regarding grieving. When my aunt lost Angelica she did not go to birthday parties, baby showers, christenings, etc for a really really really long time and you know what no one

TBGhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04706763719847053772noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12843084.post-1150433377494087532006-06-16T00:49:00.000-04:002006-06-16T00:49:00.000-04:002006-06-16T00:49:00.000-04:00

I just wanted to let you know that I had the same fluttering you are describing through both of my pregnancies. I would have the fluttering sometimes, and it would take my breath away, and then I would feel fine just as quick as it started. I told the doctor about it, and they told me not to worry about it, and I have a healthy son and a healthy daughter. I hope this helps to ease your mind a

Deborahhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17611009058890162238noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12843084.post-1150432273800055922006-06-16T00:31:00.000-04:002006-06-16T00:31:00.000-04:002006-06-16T00:31:00.000-04:00

Oh hunny. I wish I had words of widsom or the ability to calm your fears. I can only imagine the fear and worry that you feel... along side the increadible enjoyment. Know that you are doing everything you can to carry a healthy baby. Sometimes, as Ava has shown all of us, angels have to return home... none of that is your fault, lovey. You're increadible... absolutely INCREADIBLE. Give

Robynnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12843084.post-1150428063974344552006-06-15T23:21:00.000-04:002006-06-15T23:21:00.000-04:002006-06-15T23:21:00.000-04:00

I can understand why you don't want to go to the shower and I hope your SIL does too. Please, no guilty feelings over that. You've got to worry about yourself sometimes. I have personally never experienced my heart skipping, but I read all the comments and it doesn't sound too out of the ordinary. Big hugs!! Please don't blame yourself for anything. I know that's a lot easier said than done.

Juliahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08497493113926488342noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12843084.post-1150417588814204862006-06-15T20:26:00.000-04:002006-06-15T20:26:00.000-04:002006-06-15T20:26:00.000-04:00

i dont blame you for not going. and they shouldnt either. this has made you so much more of a mother instead of floofy stupid women who think having babies is all about the paint in the nursery and baby booties. Im proud of you.

Tachaehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00433207733634872347noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12843084.post-1150416760924715452006-06-15T20:12:00.000-04:002006-06-15T20:12:00.000-04:002006-06-15T20:12:00.000-04:00

Karla, I think anyone of us would be the same way if we experienced what you have. it is easy to give advice, but honestly I think you are incredibly brave. About the shower, I think if you just talk to your SIL I am sure she will understand, and if she doesn't she will after she has her baby. Until you experience the incredible miracle of life coming from your body you may not understand. I hope

Donnahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02575070690254630205noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12843084.post-1150415549889161672006-06-15T19:52:00.000-04:002006-06-15T19:52:00.000-04:002006-06-15T19:52:00.000-04:00

Honey, you have zero control over what your body chooses to do. You can't feel guilty for not being able to offer everything in the world to your children. Well, you could feel guilty if you had chosen to have an irregular heartbeat, but I'm about 100% sure you did not choose this. It's upsetting that your OB chose to ignore you when you told her about this. I was closer than I could have

Christihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05369978641581682398noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12843084.post-1150410165845725732006-06-15T18:22:00.000-04:002006-06-15T18:22:00.000-04:002006-06-15T18:22:00.000-04:00

This is my first time in (from butterfly girl) but I wanted to tell you that my heart does that too... it will actually do a skip, then what almost seems like a loud hard 'thud' and then start again. ... the reason I share? Three healthy, happy babies later I can tell you that you had nothing to do with Ava's heart problem. I believe that full heartedly.Alow yourself to grieve.. but allow

aka_Meritthttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10711662607879816395noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12843084.post-1150390094116001612006-06-15T12:48:00.000-04:002006-06-15T12:48:00.000-04:002006-06-15T12:48:00.000-04:00

Karla, I agree with what Heather said. We take the things that happen to our children so personally, even though some things are completely out of our control.I totally understand you not wanting to go to the shower, although they are probably going to think that since you are now pregnant, everything should be fine. Which would not be true. I wish you luck on that front.I personally did not

Ginahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11604097511444010759noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12843084.post-1150384992274486612006-06-15T11:23:00.000-04:002006-06-15T11:23:00.000-04:002006-06-15T11:23:00.000-04:00

Carla,I have been reading your blog for quite a while now. I was pregnant during your blog about Ava and I remember laughing out loud at the funny things you would say and remembering that I was feeling the same way. When I read what happened to Ava I cried for you and your husband. I prayed for your family everyday. During my pregnancy which was 3 months behind yours, I experianced the same

Pandorahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13955239409018365660noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12843084.post-1150380715522540122006-06-15T10:11:00.000-04:002006-06-15T10:11:00.000-04:002006-06-15T10:11:00.000-04:00

Oh Karla...everytime you post my heart skips a beat. I so want this pregnancy to end in joy and life! I can certainly understand your feelings and I hope your family is empathetic as well. I'm praying for you and hoping that all will be well.

emilyhttp://www.emilypowers.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12843084.post-1150380424170035212006-06-15T10:07:00.000-04:002006-06-15T10:07:00.000-04:002006-06-15T10:07:00.000-04:00

Oh Karla, I am sitting here with tears in my eyes nodding in agreement at all the things you are feeling and thinking. I have felt and thought the same things so many times in the last 2 years that sometimes it seems like it is all I think about anymore. Makily's genetic problems is something I am a carrier for. I have hated, blamed and beaten myself up for it since I found out this was

Patyrishhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12749219949993878456noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12843084.post-1150378102673330932006-06-15T09:28:00.000-04:002006-06-15T09:28:00.000-04:002006-06-15T09:28:00.000-04:00

i can't imagine how hard it must be to go through another pregnancy so soon.....i am fnding even the process and roller coaster of trying to get prego (for nearly 8 months now) trying and scary.i think of you often, and your little one, and wish only the best for you

dawnatellohttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06726463053917580354noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12843084.post-1150378012177408992006-06-15T09:26:00.000-04:002006-06-15T09:26:00.000-04:002006-06-15T09:26:00.000-04:00

I don't know why we do this as mothers, but we ALL do - heap useless and poorly placed guilt on our heads even if it's something that's entirely out of our control.When Maddie came after we lost Matthew and had a miscarriage, the doctor discovered a heart murmur and I thought "okay, here we go, I knew she was doomed from the start". Well it turned out to be very minor and she's one of the

Heatherhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01975795000759157299noreply@blogger.com